When Amanda was 26 years old she found herself in a familiar but awkward situation: She was still a virgin and the guy she had been dating for three months didn't know it. About a week later they went to the movies together, and afterward, he walked her to the car.She wasn't ready to sleep with him yet, but she was close, real close. She leaned in to kiss him and he backed away, "like I was some disgusting object." "It made me scared to date, scared to talk to guys.Everybody is saying "Look, this is what's going on. " At parties, especially college parties, conversations tend to revolve around sex, and about the last thing any virgin wants is for her sexuality to be the hot topic or, worse, to risk the chance that someone in the group will talk down to her, as if all she knows about sex is the birds and the bees. "I remember one of the guys saying, ' Man, if I was 24 and a virgin I think I'd go crazy.Laura, a virgin until she was 25, remembers parties where friends and strangers would trade personal sex stories. I think I'd die.' Then some other guy said, ' You know the Unabomber was a virgin," and I'm thinking, ' Oh my God, they think I'm going to turn into a sociopath because I haven't had sex at the age of 23.'" On the men's lifestyle Web site Ask Men.com, relationship correspondent Lawrence Mitchell wrote a column in 2002 called "Should You Date a Virgin?It reminded her of the last time and she started to cry.
Of course, being a virgin late in the game is nothing new; but in a hypersexualized culture, in which teenage girls are starting to have sex at progressively younger ages and spin the bottle seems to have been replaced by the blow job, to be a virgin in her mid- to late 20s suddenly seems extreme.The most interesting aspect of You And Me Are virgin dating site — besides its grammatically interesting name — is probably the gift shop. Because let's face it, the easiest way to stay a virgin is to not date. (Might I suggest substituting one of the main players with Capt. or for the discerning ex-virgin, Snape, as one of the main players? Virginity is a rare and valuable commodity these days — according to You And Me Are To be sure, You And Me Are isn't the first virgin-targeted dating site — you know how popular being a virgin is these days, what with Bristol Palin and Levi Johnson re-converting (i.e. ) Speaking of writing, the You And Me Are home page features a detailed description of what constitutes a virgin — in case potential site members aren't sure — repeating the term "sexual intercourse" more than three times in one paragraph. "It was reported in 2009 that someone was willing to pay 5.6 million dollars to buy the virginity of a woman." Who reported? " Maybe the same guy who loaned his sweater to a beautiful young woman the night before, and found it the next morning — ON HER GRAVE! Another dating site, OKCupid, has a photo game in which you're shown a series of photos and asked to guess which photos contain virgins — kind of like that quiz where you're asked to distinguish Helvetica font from Arial."But that was the point when everything shifted." Some people may think Amanda is unique, maybe even a freak.But the fact is, there are a surprising number of women -- smart, savvy and attractive women -- who still haven't lost their virginity into their 20s or 30s.But he didn't call until the following week and things went downhill from there.